If you have just started following along then perhaps you may have missed that over the past month I have been
ranting talking about simplicity, confessions, surprises, greener grass, making differences, and being content. I’ve decided that I would like to delegate Thursdays as a day where I talk about my life, love, things I am passionate about, and what makes me tick. Since it’s already Thursday in Korea I’d like to present you with my very first official “Tell All Thursday.”
Almost every woman that I have ever met has thought negatively about their body in some way. I mean, it’s extremely hard not to, right? We are bombarded by a society of consumers telling us to buy the latest lotion, lip gloss, skin care, purse, shoes, or clothing item. The list goes on and on. Media tells us the more we purchase the better we will feel about ourselves. It’s not just women either. Men out there. This is for you too.
The pictures we see in magazines, movies, and commercials. They tell us we “need” it. We “must” have it. They try to create a sense of urgency and desperation so we purchase (and continue) to purchase their products. The pressure women face can often be self-inflicted, but society surely isn’t making it any easier.
While being in Korea I have come to the realization that just because they are #1 in medical tourism doesn’t mean that America is any different when it comes to beauty image. It’s kills me that middle school girls think that eye lid surgery is making them more beautiful. It’s happening all over and not just Korea. I am a petite woman. If you’ve met me you know I stand 5’2 on a good day. I have genetics that have allowed me to eat what I want, when I want, and how much I want of it. I have been 105 pounds for as long as I can remember ( I actually don’t own a scale so that could be different now!) Before you start raging and shaking your fist at the screen first, listen. In America I have literally been asked questions like “Are you anorexic?” – Well, um no. I am not, but you’re freaking rude. Does that count for something? I’ve been told my entire life “You’re so tiny. You’re so small. You’re so skinny” YES, I am. Do you think I don’t know that? I am a small person. I get that. Does it make you feel better to say it out loud? I wouldn’t tell a bigger person “Wow, you’re really big.” I just wouldn’t. It’s rude.
My point is this: No matter where you are, if you’re a human I would guess at some point you’ve compared, felt bad, or tried to perfect your body. Sometimes we do it unintentionally. We see a picture and we compare ourselves to what we looked at. ” I like her hair. I want her hair. I wish I was taller.” – I’ve been there. We all have. It’s time we stop giving compliments based on appearance and start giving compliments based on a person’s morals, values, and what makes them who they are. Before I go off on a rant again I would want you to know this:
You are beautifully and wonderfully made. You are perfect. People can make it so hard. Don’t give up on yourself and most importantly don’t give up on your confidence. You are worth it. Life is worth it. You are a gem. A gem that is unique. One that can not be replaced.